need help with the swinger life style.?
Me and my husband have been married for six years and are still very much in love, but I recently and some of my friends have discussed the life swinger “not swing with each other if”. Are there any suggestions or websites to learn more about swingers because I have not talked about this with my husband and want to be well informed when I Disscussion with him. At any suggestions on how to wear it??
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April 27th, 2010 at 6:06 pm
I cannot suggest any sites, though a Google search and some browsing should find you something useful.
There is a book that was written a few years ago, but did a very good job at covering this issue in good detail and its still in print.
The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers, by Terry Gould (Author). I’ve read it, and it did a good job explaining the topic.
Beyond that, theres an old saying in this area: Safe, sane and consensual. Its vital that all aspects of what is and isn’t on the table for the pair of you is discussed beforehand, and that whatever specific boundaries that you both agree to are never breached, for any reasons. Trust in such an endeavour is both crucial and potentially fragile. Of course, such a thing should only be entered into by a couple where both spouses are fully willing and happy to go there.
April 27th, 2010 at 6:56 pm
hiya!!!
if you are looking for more information that relates directly to the swinger lifestyle, then you should visit http://www.swingersanswers.org it has a vast amount of topics related to exactly what your looking for…
all you need to do is be open and honest with your husband, allow him to express his concerns and re-assure him of the reasons you want to entertain the idea….
hope this helps!!!
dawn
April 27th, 2010 at 7:16 pm
Try the website below. There is a forum devoted just to lifestyle “newbies” and it answers most of the questions newbies have about swinging. There are helpful suggestions to help you bring up the topic and discuss it in a way that is non-threatening to your husband. It’s more common to see the male half bringing it up, but having the topic brought up by the female half is hardly unheard of. I think it’s great that you’re wanting to branch out and go on an adventure together!
If you’re wanting to be well-informed, don’t forget to look up the cons as well as the pros. Search the forums for “bad experiences”, and pop in to the STDs and Swinging forum. The lifestyle is NOT without its risks, but you will both have to decide for yourselves just what level of risk is acceptable for you.
Good luck!
April 27th, 2010 at 8:07 pm
The best source I’ve come across in my wife and I’s 5 years of swinging is The Swingers Board forums. There you can discuss and get advice from those that have been successfully married and swinging for decades as well as those just starting to think about it – like you.